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Who am I?
I'm Ibinye Osibodu-Onyali (Yes, it's a long name), but you can call me Ibi. I’m a Christian mom of 2, Navy wife, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a work-life balance coach.
I believe you can be a working mom who takes care of yourself, feels a sense of calm when you come home after a long day and your relationships don't have to struggle because of your career.
Being a working mom can be hard
I have always had a desire to work. I love the camaraderie of my coworkers and it felt nice contributing financially to my family. I was so proud to be a great role model for my daughter.
The problem was that my life always seemed to be out of balance. I was excelling at work, but then times would come when I felt like I was failing as a wife and a mom. All I yearned for was to be able to complete my to do list, stay close to my kids and maintain a great relationship with my husband. If God gave me my talents for a reason, why was I just so miserable?
It was not until I made some real life changes that I was able to step into my purpose, become closer than ever to my husband, find supportive women who understood me and truly find a life of calm.
When it started to fall apart
The moment I started to have kids, I felt like a hamster on a wheel-always running but never getting anywhere.
So I have tried every possible work combination. I've been a stay at home mom, a work at home mom and a work outside the home mom. But I always felt like I was one second away from a break down.
It felt like all I ever did with my life was work, work, work. I was cranky, my house was always a mess, and by night time, I would just fall into bed exhausted. Can you relate?
I had no social life and I had lost myself. At some point I didn't even have any hobbies and I was not taking care of myself because I felt like I didn't have time.
When I stopped dreaming
After a few years, I just resigned myself to fate. I assumed that the life of a working mom was supposed to be hectic and anxiety provoking all the time.
Even though at my job, I was a therapist who helped other women find breakthroughs, I couldn't do it for myself.
I was stressed, miserable and not my best self.
My husband and I would argue because I was always too tired to spend time with him. My kids were stressed because they could sense that I was stressed. Sometimes I would cry on my way to work because everything seemed to be falling apart.
But I knew that I did not want to give up working. It was my calling. I had to figure out a way to find a suitable balance.
When I Finally Found Myself
When I decided to help others
I know what it is to be the shining star at work but feel like I’m failing at home. But I also know what it feels like to raise happy kids, maintain supportive relationships and have time for myself.
All these trials have brought me to you my dear. It is my passion to help working moms step off the hamster wheel, prioritize and exhale joy.
I hope to get to know you better Mama,