How to find your individual purpose as woman of God- even as a family woman

Today we have yet another blog post by Nina Dafe. She will be sharing about how to find your purpose even as a busy family woman. We are so excited to have her enlighten us here on the blog.

So last week, I sent you loads of Biblical examples proving that women working after having kids is not against God's design. However, you may have been left wondering: 

"How do I now find my own individual and unique purpose as a woman of God, outside of being a helper and mother?"

Well, I think that there are multiple layers to this question. For one, you can't forget who you are as a person, outside of the many hats that you wear (including that of helper and mother). God is the best at seeing us for who we are and reminding us of who we are as women, outside of our many roles. So the best way to discover the call on your life is really to get before Him. Here's how: 

In the Far Above Rubies Collection Resource Library, there's an ebook based on Mary (the mother of Jesus') life that I wrote and takes you through the steps of "How to Walk in God's Purpose for Your Life (Plus the 7 Features of a God-given Assignment". If you really want to know what your unique purpose is, take the steps it outlines-

Step one: Acknowledge that there is a Call on Your Life

Before we can walk in our God-given purpose, we must acknowledge that we have one because God does nothing without cause. In other words, the precursor to us being able to walk in our purpose is a belief that we are significant and that God created us to contribute something to the world for His glory. There must be a recognition that God can and does still work through His people, and (because we are His people) He has also called us to do His will- just like He did Eve, Mary, Jesus and many others.

Step two: Discover the Call on Your Life

To walk in our God-given purpose, we must discover what it is. It is all good and well knowing that there is a call on our lives, it is another thing entirely knowing the specifics of what it is and entails. In order to find this out, we must ask God in prayer and wait for Him to communicate His will. According to scripture, He communicates through mediums such as:

  • The Bible, which is His word (2nd Timothy 3:16)

  • Speaking audibly, just as He did with Samuel and Jesus (1st Samuel 3:1-10; Matthew 3:17)

  • The “still small voice” of the Holy Spirit, which tends to sound like our own inner voice (1st Kings 19:11-13)

  • Other people, just as He did within Elizabeth and Mary’s relationship (Luke 1:39-45)

  • Dreams (Matthew 2:12-13)

  • Angels (Luke 1:26-38; Luke 1:5-17 and Luke 2:8-20)

  • Ideas and visions (Exodus 35:31-35)

That was not an exhaustive list and God may use further means in addition to those mentioned above. Whichever He uses to speak to you, however, it is up to you to-

Step three: Recognise and Accept the Call of God on Your Life

Once you recognise what God is calling you to, accept it. Surrender to God’s will and say “Yes!”. It’s what Mary did (Luke 1:38), even though it more than likely was not how she envisioned her life going and even though saying “yes” put a stigma on her that could have caused her, her relationship with Joseph. However, her “yes” is why Elizabeth declared her blessed (in Luke 1:45) and why she is still celebrated to this day. It’s the same with us. Surrendering to God’s will may come with challenges and possible sacrifice, especially as a helper and mother, but we will ultimately be more blessed flowing in Him than not.

Step four: Add Actions to Your Faith

After accepting your purpose as God’s will, act on it. Add actions to your faith through obedience to His instructions. This is another thing that Mary did, which is also the case with many of the other matriarchs and patriarchs of the faith, as recorded in Hebrews 11. Their examples show us that obedience is not just a demonstration of our love for God (1st John 5:3), but our faith in His ability to fulfill His word through us. This need for faith is especially because, as in Mary’s case, a God-given vision tends to have the following 7 features:

  1. It doesn’t make immediate sense or seems impossible

  2. It requires God to add His Super to Our Natural

  3. It glorifies God

  4. It is socially significant

  5. A God-given vision is very specific/niche

  6. A God-given purpose requires us to move in different realms

  7. God tends to reveal the ultimate purpose of the vision He gives us without revealing the finer details

Access the full eBook here so that you can speak up, step out and shine as the woman of God that He ordained you to be.

Thanks Nina for helping us moms understand that there is more to life than kids, chores and busyness. We all have a deeper purpose.

About Nina

Nina Dafe mentors heart-centred; visionary Christian women who want to banish the blocks keeping them from achieving their business goals once and for all. She is also an international speaker, talk show host and blogger whose writing has been featured on multiple platforms including Thrive Global, TEDx, HuffPost, She Leads Africa, Bustle, Relevant Magazine and Radiant Health Magazine. You can join her Miracle Mindset Makeover free for 7 days now  at: Faraboverubiescollection.com

Why working after having kids is not against God's design

This week, Nina Dafe from (Faraboverubiescollection.com) is here to bless us with another blog post. This week she will be talking about God’s design for work.


I love my job and my career, but wonder if I will be living contrary to God's design by working full time after having kids? Most of my role models have always aspired to be wives and stay-at-home mums (and even stay-at-home homeschooling mums) - a desire I don't really share.

Can you relate to this question, lovely? If the answer is "yes," please know that you are not alone. I have received this question (or at least a variation of it) more times than I can count from members of the Far Above Rubies Collective (my online community). Here's my take on it:

 A part of the issue with Christian womanhood is how prescriptive people can make it, I feel. This was one of the things that both frustrated and inspired me to launch my website (Faraboverubiescollection.com) in 2016. For example, although I think that being a stay at home mum is and can be a ministry- when I was growing up, my mum didn't have the option to not work as our family's circumstances did not allow that. Women like her should not be made to feel bad or like they are going against God's will if it's simply not feasible for them. I, personally, have many goals and dreams; so I don't see myself necessarily not wanting to work if and when I have children either.

Aside from that:

  • As you saw in last week's blog post, the call to "be fruitful and multiply" is not just about children. This is also a call to be good stewards of the purpose, talents etc that God has called us to (our brain-children, if you will). You can read more about this here.

  • If you check out this post you'll see that the Biblical matriarchs worked, they both had and fulfilled their purposes in God (even as mothers) and that this is not outside the will of God.

  • Not all Biblical mothers, personally taught their children. For example, Hannah's son (Samuel) grew up under Eli (the priest's) tutelage (1st Samuel 1, 2 and 3). This shows that, although there are a great number of reasons why people may prefer to homeschool, it's not necessarily the Biblical standard to do so and someone else may be better suited to aid in your child(ren)'s education.

I was having a conversation with a friend very recently in which I was saying that there are many women feeling that they have no choice but to conform to norms and stereotypes which actually don't suit them or make them unhappy because that's "God's will/design". But God has given us free-will. He actually gives us the very desires of our hearts, according to scripture- meaning that He places our aims, aspirations and personalities within us. So, if working, homeschooling etc are not where your heart lies, I would venture to say that's not what you should be doing, especially not:

  • In the name of a God who calls us to "worship in spirit and in truth"

  • When God says that we are to do things "heartily, as to the Lord and not to men"

But, ultimately, I would say to pray about it, do what's best for you and your family's circumstances and what is within your skill-set.

So ladies, you’ve heard it from Nina. What are your thoughts about working outside the home?

About Nina:

Nina Dafe mentors heart-centred; visionary Christian women who want to banish the blocks keeping them from achieving their business goals once and for all. She is also an international speaker, talk show host and blogger whose writing has been featured on multiple platforms including Thrive Global, TEDx, HuffPost, She Leads Africa, Bustle, Relevant Magazine and Radiant Health Magazine. You can join her Miracle Mindset Makeover free for 7 days now  at: Faraboverubiescollection.com

Why "Be fruitful and multiply" is not just about motherhood

Hello everyone, long time no blog! Today I have a very special treat for you. We have a guest blogger who will be sharing her words of wisdom with us. Her name is Nina Dafe. Just a bit about her. Nina Dafe mentors heart-centred; visionary Christian women who want to banish the blocks keeping them from achieving their business goals once and for all. She is also an international speaker, talk show host and blogger whose writing has been featured on multiple platforms including Thrive Global, TEDx, HuffPost, She Leads Africa, Bustle, Relevant Magazine and Radiant Health Magazine. You can join her Miracle Mindset Makeover free for 7 days now  at: Faraboverubiescollection.com

And now, on to the post!

“Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth’”

However, it also ties in with another spiritual truth- stewardship. If we cross reference Matthew 25:14-30 with Genesis 1:28, parallels between the two can be established. Namely that God acted just as the wealthy man in the Parable of the Talents did at the dawn of creation by creating a great wealth of things, which He initially managed, before employing us as mankind to take over His responsibilities. It is in this way that we, as women, are able to have dominion (the right to control, govern or rule). Therefore, contrary to many cultural and religious beliefs (including my own) and like the servants in Matthew 25, one of the mandates of the original woman (and therefore women at large) was to rule with men. To reiterate the afore-mentioned scripture, it begins:

“Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply…’” (boldness added for emphasis)

The directives that follow (“fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth”) show that this scripture is not purely about reproduction, but stewardship. It is therefore important that we get an understanding of:

  • What the principles of stewardship are

  • What exactly we are stewards over

  • How to be effective stewards for God

Because what we do with our call to rule can either positively impact our lives, giving us the life of our dreams, or negatively impact it, creating the stuff of nightmares! Also, our lives are not our own. We are called to do God’s will and, without a proper understanding of what that is, we can disqualify ourselves from fulfilling the thing(s) that God has called us to. There are souls attached to our purpose, let us not end up with blood on our hands due to a lack of basic understanding of everything that this encompasses.

If you are interested in being mentored by a woman of God who knows the word through and through, then Nina is the person for you. Her blog brings scripture to life in a truly meaningful way.

Thanks Nina for sharing your words of wisdom with The Happy Working Mom Tribe.




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