Today I am going to continue talking about the myths about motherhood that I totally thought were true. If you missed part 1, here’s the link here.
1) I thought I had to be Supermom: I always fantasized that I would be the perfect woman, with the perfectly clean house, beautiful lawn, toned abs, no stretch marks and an amazing business mogul. Well, what I got is children who don’t always listen to me, abs that jiggle when I do jumping jacks and a house that is often messy. It was not until I stopped chasing perfection that I actually began to reduce overwhelm in my life and enjoy my journey.
2) I thought I had to be like other moms: I spent a few years trying to fit into the cool moms’ club (Don’t judge me. I was a young mom). I was not being my authentic self. I tried to enjoy the same shows my friends watched and get into their same hobbies. I even made a billion trips to the mall with them- FYI I HATE the mall and I HATE shopping even more. I was so concerned with how they perceived me that I was willing to give up my true self.
3) I thought I couldn’t splurge on myself: Now remember those trips to the mall I talked about? I would stare at clothes and shoes that I knew would look great on me, and that I could afford, but then I’d try them on and then head over to the kids’ section and buy something for my children instead. I thought it would be a waste of money spending money on myself. It has taken me a while to realize that it is okay to leave room for myself in my monthly budget. It is okay to get the shoes and to buy the cute purse. An unhappy mom will raise unhappy kids.
4) I thought working was bad for my kids: Even though I was raised by two working parents, and I think I turned out just fine, I somehow imagined that I would never be able to figure out how to launch the career I always dreamed of. I spent 2 years as a stay at home mom, but all the while, I silently stuffed down my ambition.
But you know what the research says? It says that moms who work create a great example for their daughters. There are amazing working moms and amazing stay at home moms. All that matters is following where your heart leads.
These myths held me back for such a long time. Now that I know that I don’t have to live by them, I am so much happier and I feel free to live an authentic life. What myths have held you back?
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