I remember the day my son was born. It was almost exactly 9 years ago (wow, time flies). I was a terrified 22 year old who had no experience with kids. I was pretty sure I was going to be a hot mess.
Let’s face it. Before I had a child of my own, I didn’t even like children. Fast forward to today. I now have another child- a 5 year old daughter - and somehow I have managed to raise 2 well adjusted kids, alongside my husband, while running a home and a business.
My kids light up my world and they have taught me some amazing lessons:
1) Don’t take life so seriously: My son is the biggest goof ball. This boy has a happy, peaceful spirit. His mind is always coming up with inventions and stories. Currently he is running his very own detective agency and is looking to hire someone…I’m not even kidding.
Even when he is having the worst day, Ugo still manages to smile and find the good in the world. I, on the other hand, can be very serious and very cranky. I am prone to worry about the smallest things. But he has taught me to calm down and truly enjoy the little things- like a bar of chocolate or the warm breeze. Gratitude has taken me from frustrated lady to happy and content.
2) Forgive: My kids are best friends-even though they are three and a half years apart. My daughter cannot spend 5 minutes away from her older brother. They fight like angry wolves, but at the end of the day they’ve learned to resolve issues with a hug and a deep conversation. I have learned to see the humanity in others. People will make mistakes, but I must forgive them and stop harboring harsh feelings.
3) Keep trying: I’ve watched my kids have many melt downs…I’m sure you’re familiar. But they keep going until they have mastered the skill. My daughter struggled to learn how to read and write all her alphabets. But she kept going and going through many tears, and she can finally do it. Children are resilient. They fall many times, but they also keep getting up. I have learned that I will keep trying until I master whatever I put my mind to. I will never be too old to learn something new.
4) Look at the world with wonder: No matter how many times we visit the beach, my kids act like it is their first time experiencing water. They notice the sights, sounds and temperature anew each time. I am learning to truly embrace the world around me and not be so jaded by the busyness of the world. Sometimes as I drive, I try to appreciate my neighborhood or be thankful that my body still works fine. I try to enjoy the chirping birds and the beautiful flowers. When I stop and think, I realize that my life could be way worse.
What has motherhood taught you?