Why working after having kids is not against God's design

This week, Nina Dafe from (Faraboverubiescollection.com) is here to bless us with another blog post. This week she will be talking about God’s design for work.

I love my job and my career, but wonder if I will be living contrary to God's design by working full time after having kids? Most of my role models have always aspired to be wives and stay-at-home mums (and even stay-at-home homeschooling mums) - a desire I don't really share.

Can you relate to this question, lovely? If the answer is "yes," please know that you are not alone. I have received this question (or at least a variation of it) more times than I can count from members of the Far Above Rubies Collective (my online community). Here's my take on it:

 A part of the issue with Christian womanhood is how prescriptive people can make it, I feel. This was one of the things that both frustrated and inspired me to launch my website (Faraboverubiescollection.com) in 2016. For example, although I think that being a stay at home mum is and can be a ministry- when I was growing up, my mum didn't have the option to not work as our family's circumstances did not allow that. Women like her should not be made to feel bad or like they are going against God's will if it's simply not feasible for them. I, personally, have many goals and dreams; so I don't see myself necessarily not wanting to work if and when I have children either.

Aside from that:

  • As you saw in last week's blog post, the call to "be fruitful and multiply" is not just about children. This is also a call to be good stewards of the purpose, talents etc that God has called us to (our brain-children, if you will). You can read more about this here.

  • If you check out this post you'll see that the Biblical matriarchs worked, they both had and fulfilled their purposes in God (even as mothers) and that this is not outside the will of God.

  • Not all Biblical mothers, personally taught their children. For example, Hannah's son (Samuel) grew up under Eli (the priest's) tutelage (1st Samuel 1, 2 and 3). This shows that, although there are a great number of reasons why people may prefer to homeschool, it's not necessarily the Biblical standard to do so and someone else may be better suited to aid in your child(ren)'s education.

I was having a conversation with a friend very recently in which I was saying that there are many women feeling that they have no choice but to conform to norms and stereotypes which actually don't suit them or make them unhappy because that's "God's will/design". But God has given us free-will. He actually gives us the very desires of our hearts, according to scripture- meaning that He places our aims, aspirations and personalities within us. So, if working, homeschooling etc are not where your heart lies, I would venture to say that's not what you should be doing, especially not:

  • In the name of a God who calls us to "worship in spirit and in truth"

  • When God says that we are to do things "heartily, as to the Lord and not to men"

But, ultimately, I would say to pray about it, do what's best for you and your family's circumstances and what is within your skill-set.

So ladies, you’ve heard it from Nina. What are your thoughts about working outside the home?

About Nina:

Nina Dafe mentors heart-centred; visionary Christian women who want to banish the blocks keeping them from achieving their business goals once and for all. She is also an international speaker, talk show host and blogger whose writing has been featured on multiple platforms including Thrive Global, TEDx, HuffPost, She Leads Africa, Bustle, Relevant Magazine and Radiant Health Magazine. You can join her Miracle Mindset Makeover free for 7 days now  at: Faraboverubiescollection.com