So often I find myself on social media, mindlessly scrolling. Everyone’s feed always looks so perfect. The pictures always have the best lighting, all the moms have perfect bodies and their kids have evergreen smiles. They show their beautiful, spotless homes and beautiful, spotless cars. Life always seems to be going well for them.
I grew up with two working parents. In my mind, my mom was Superwoman. The lady got up before everyone, went to bed after everyone, had a successful career and raised three children.
I have pleasant memories of running errands with her and also watching her at work. My mama can do no wrong.
Well, when I became a mom, I always knew that I wanted to pursue a career. I wasn’t quite sure which career, but I knew the stay at home life didn’t suit me. I’ve now been a working mom for almost 7 years, and here’s what I’ve learned:
As I get older, I am learning to soak up as many lessons as I can so that I can leave the world a little better for the people coming after me.
My mindset has shifted me from overwhelmed, tired mom to a woman on a mission to enjoy her life and achieve some goals. So often when we talk about building a network of support, we forget that our husbands should be added to that list.
Here are some lessons I have learned from my husband:
I remember the day my son was born. It was almost exactly 9 years ago (wow, time flies). I was a terrified 22 year old who had no experience with kids. I was pretty sure I was going to be a hot mess.
Let’s face it. Before I had a child of my own, I didn’t even like children. Fast forward to today. I now have another child- a 5 year old daughter - and somehow I have managed to raise 2 well adjusted kids, alongside my husband, while running a home and a business.
Today I am going to continue talking about the myths about motherhood that I totally thought were true. If you missed part 1, here’s the link here.
1) I thought I had to be Supermom: I always fantasized that I would be the perfect woman, with the perfectly clean house, beautiful lawn, toned abs, no stretch marks and an amazing business mogul. Well, what I got is children who don’t always listen to me, abs that jiggle when I do jumping jacks and a house that is often messy. It was not until I stopped chasing perfection that I actually began to reduce overwhelm in my life and enjoy my journey.